Advice Please!!!?

If he is this brave sober then you have a problem. He has lost all respect for you and has no fear of you leaving. Find a good support group for people who live with alcoholics. Then like any important choice you make in life prepare for it. If your family states you will be on your own then start saving, researching resources, and look for local legal support. There are options out there but in the end you will carry the greatest burden. Leaving will give you far more than staying will. This is not an issue of giving up on your marriage, it is an issue of protecting your children and respecting yourself enough to do something positive. It takes much more courage to move forward then it does to remain still and hope for the best. In ten years from now when your children begin to mimic your husbands abusive behavior you will hate yourself for not doing something.